When we judge…

Judging another human and refusing to be aware of it is, I feel that part of our dark side which when brought into light can create the biggest wonder in transforming the soul to see it’s own gift – the gift of true acceptance – of seeing another soul for what they are and learning to surrender to that fact totally – yet we all judge most of the times – it requires a conscious effort to check ourselves when we begin to put someone in a box and assess them – the real truth is that we are judging ourselves at that point – and yet I feel the intent is of key importance here – sometimes we judge others in order to understand ourselves better and more lucidly – the intention is not to malign or bring down the other – but the tricky part is to be aware when we judge – to know whether we are doing it unconsciously because judging others has become our second nature – whether we are doing it out of hurt, insecurity or need for validation – being aware is the key – and the pain of being judged by the ones we love is perhaps the most excruciating pain one can experience – it’s the kind of suffering that sometimes requires immense time to heal and forgive – and yet if we can be compassionate and think before we open our mouths – it will save so many broken hearts, bruised souls and ugly relationships- we don’t judge another when we judge – we judge our own selves and show how inadequate we are by making another feel inadequate …think about it.